Benny Blanco sets record straight on when his secret romance with Selena Gomez began

Benny Blanco set the record straight on when he and his wife, Selena Gomez, began their secret romance. “We kept our relationship private for a long time, about eight or…

Benny Blanco set the record straight on when he and his wife, Selena Gomez, began their secret romance.

“We kept our relationship private for a long time, about eight or nine months,” the music producer told Spanish newspaper El País.

Blanco said the “Calm Down” singer asked him whether he was “sure” he wanted to be in a relationship with her.

“And she asked me, ‘Are you sure you want to do this? I understand if you want us to just be friends,’” he recalled.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco pose with their arms around each other.
Benny Blanco revealed when his secret romance with Selena Gomez (seen above with her husband) began. Selena Gomez/Instagram
Benny Blanco speaks onstage at the 2024 BMI Pop Awards.
“We kept our relationship private for a long time, about eight or nine months,” the music producer (seen above at the 2024 BMI Pop Awards) told El País. Getty Images for BMI

“And then I said, ‘You know what? Screw it,’” the songwriter added.

“We’re lucky because we both have friends and family we’ve known since before all this, and we’re surrounded by a good group of people we love.”

Blanco also touched on how he deals with “public scrutiny” while married to Gomez — who is the third most followed person in the world on Instagram behind soccer stars Cristiano Ronaldo and Messi.

“I don’t like to expose my life. Famous people are under constant scrutiny: if you say one thing, it’s wrong, and if you say another, it’s also wrong,” he shared.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco embrace, with Blanco kissing Gomez's shoulder.
Blanco (seen above with his wife) recalled the “Calm Down” singer asking him if he was “sure” he wanted to be with her. Selena Gomez/Instagram
Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco kissing.
“We’re lucky because we both have friends and family we’ve known since before all this, and we’re surrounded by a good group of people we love,” he shared. (Pictured: Blanco and Gomez kissing.) selenagomez/Instagram

“I’d like to have more privacy. I suppose I’m getting on in years: I belong to that transitional generation where social media didn’t exist when I was a child,” Blanco added.

“Maybe I’ll occasionally post a picture of my wife or some delicious dish I’ve tried, but I hardly ever post anything on my Instagram that isn’t work-related.”

Gomez, 33, and Blanco, 38, first hinted at their romance in July 2023 when the producer attended the singer’s 31st birthday celebration.

Selena Gomez and Benny Blanco seated courtside during a Boston Celtics vs. New York Knicks game.
Gomez and Blanco’s romance became public in 2023. (Pictured: The couple at an NBA game in 2025.) Charles Wenzelberg / New York Post
Selena Gomez in a yellow swimsuit and Benny Blanco in a floral shirt and plaid pants relaxing on a boat.
In December 2024, the actress (seen bove with Blanco) announced they wre engaged. selenagomez/Instagram

That December, the “Only Murders in the Building” star confirmed that she had been secretly dating Blanco for six months.

A year later, Gomez announced that she and Blanco were engaged.

“forever begins now,” the “Emilia Pérez” actress captioned a carousel of photos showing off her diamond sparkler.

In September 2025, Blanco and Gomez tied the knot in a romantic ceremony at the lush Sea Crest Nursery in Santa Barbara, California.

Selena Gomez kissing Benny Blanco on the cheek while wearing a wedding gown and veil.
The couple (seen above) tied the knot in September 2025. Photo by Samm Blake
Benny Blanco kissing Selena Gomez's chest in a restaurant.
The pair (seen above) took a road trip for their honeymoon. selenagomez/Instagram

The bride and groom both rocked Ralph Lauren, with the pop star wearing a custom hand-draped halter satin dress with embroidery, and Blanco in a classic black tuxedo and bowtie.

The couple exchanged vows in front of several stars, including Ed Sheeran, Martin Short, Steve Martin, Paul Rudd, Paris Hilton, Zoe Saldaña, SZA and the bride’s BFF Taylor Swift.

Following the nuptials, the newlyweds enjoyed a “perfect” honeymoon — a road trip that spanned the coast of California and Texas.

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